Truth and Love is on my mind today. I have missed you, my lovely friends and I am glad to be back. Life hit me and my family with a sledge hammer. Last year I posted about my sister Nickey’s cancer and sadly, she transitioned from this life. Today I want to tell you my little sister.
I have said many times Nickey was my real life baby doll. Me and my twin John were never mad at having a little sister. We have adored and spoiled her from day one. I want to leave you with two things about my sister Nickey:
First, Nickey was a truth teller. If y’all remember the episode of The Real Housewives Atlanta, when Sheree said, “Who gon check me boo?” Well Nickey was my checker, because she would as they say keep it 100 and she did just that. Rather than let me veer down a bad path, she would tell me my poop stinked. She called you on your stuff, never with a mean spirit or with malice, but done with so much humor. Nickey really should have been a comedian! Like my Mama, she was naturally funny and with a quick wit. I do believe she missed her calling. It is a blessing to have someone in your life who makes you a better person.
Second, Nickey touched a lot of people, she loved people. I cannot tell you how many times we would be on the phone and she would be telling me about somebody she met at Family Dollar and how she had inspired, motivated, or encouraged a random person in the span of 5 minutes in the checkout line. Nickey was afraid to show love to a total stranger. She could look beyond people’s faults and see their best parts. Non-judgemental. It is a blessing to have someone in your life who loves all of you, flaws and all.
Nickey was really a unique person with a booming personality. Like a cross between Lola Falana and Xena Warrior Princes. It seems like I just talked to her and now she is gone. I have heard people say they have a hole in their heart with the loss of a loved one. And, I don’t think I really quite got it. Like most of us, I would say my condolences, but not until now do I understand that feeling of sadness and loss. I have a hole in my heart. But, I have resolved to take my sister’s gifts of truth and love and put them in that hole to honor her memory. I will miss my baby doll. Rest in peace Nickey!
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Love this tribute to your baby doll. She was a kind and real person from what I read. She lives on in memory and by these words. My grandma transitioned years ago but when I sit down and think to myself I always hear her voice. Her voice and laughter I still have.
Thank you Carla, she was so cool! Be blessed sweet friend!
I am so happy that you can write about this my Sista. I lost my baby Sis to brain cancer more than 20 years ago, I cannot even remember the date. I think I blocked that out to ease the pain back then. She left 2 little girls who are now ladies to be proud of. But, I don’t think the healing process ever ends. . we learn to live with the memories of our loved ones and strive to be a good example for those left behind. Every Xmas we talk about her and everyone sheds a tear. . for the loving fabulous person we shared. Kudos my dear!
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Hi Neti, thank your sharing. Good advice to live with beautiful memories. Bless you my friend!
Antionette Blake says
Nickey is your angel now who will watch over and guide you. I wish I could tell you that the hole will heal and you’ll feel better but the truth is…it won’t! I lost my sister in 1992 due to a car accident and not a day goes by that I don’t think about or miss her but I know she watches over me and the boys.
May God provide you with strength to get through these passing days, months and years.
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Hey Antionette, yes it is some comfort to know she is watching over our family. Many blessings to you dear friend!
A beautiful tribute to a woman who was clearly deeply loved. I pray that God’s peace and love, along with your memories of Nickey, will comfort you in your grief. ((hugs))
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Hi Beckey, thank you Beckey. Be blessed sweet friend!
Nerline Germain says
She sounds so much like my daughter. My sister died in 2000. She was only 29 years old, with no children. Her death hit me really hard because she was sick for a very long time. There is nothing that I can tell you right now that can take your pain away. Ask the good Lord for strength and HE will deliver. You can find comfort in knowing that one day you will see her again. Only the body is gone. She will always be with you in spirit. Much love hun!
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Thank you sharing Nerline. Yep, one day I will see her again. All good blessings for you friend!
She sounds like a wonderful person, like everyone who met her was lucky to have had the opportunity! This is a touching and amazing post! Wish you all the best!
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Hi Carina, thank you, yes she was the coolest person I have known! Peace and blessings to you!
What a beautiful tribute your sister Robin. I was blessed to meet her once and her energy was truly inspiring. May her memory live gracefully through you as you continue on your journey.
Hey Shanti, yes she truly enjoyed hanging out with us that day! Many blessings to you friend!
This is beautiful, Robin! I’m so glad to see you back. I know it’s hard to keep writing when you go through a loss like this. My dad died about 3 years ago and it was tough. But keep writing. Keep sharing your memories and making new ones. We’ll be right here. XOXO
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Hey Stacie, I’m glad to be back. My sis loved the blog! Thank your condolences and be blessed my friend.
It sounds like your sister has a wonderful spirit. So sorry that she lost her battle with breast cancer.
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Yes she was truly unique!
Beautiful tribute to your sister Robin! So sorry for your loss. Know that she is there with you in spirit and lives within you. *Hugs*
Thank you for the kind words Louida!