Hope your weekend was more than a little fabulous! I took one day to totally veg out and one day to get some things done. It was a good weekend. I know I have said on the blog many times that I have a lot going on. I wasn’t saying it to sound important or like I was all that. I really have had a lot going on mentally because my family was changed forever Thanksgiving 2014 when my baby sister Nickey was diagnosed with stage III breast cancer.
Y’all know I’m a twin, but we have a younger sister, Nickey. Nickey has always been the light of our family. My brother and I thought she was THE greatest thing since sliced bread. I treated her like a baby doll, always dressing her up and combing her hair. She grew up to be fun, feisty, and fabulous. A cross between Lola Falana, cause she is a glamour girl and Xena Warrior Princess cause she is sho’ nuff a warrior. When I say this cancer thang hit us like a ton of bricks, that is what it felt like – a physical weight. We were all taken aback because we didn’t have a family history of cancer so where did it come from? As the big sister, I was so mad, why her? Why not me, footloose and fancy free? She has a husband and kids to take care of!! My sister already has a debilitating disease – she’s been hospitalized so many times for the other illness, I’ve lost count. And now she gets this ish, really?
I was mad y’all for a minute. I had to get my mind right to support my sister. Now my Mama, who is also experiencing some medical challenges, taught me two things – Take everything to the next level! Don’t just put dinner on the table, pull out some pretty dishes, make the food pretty on the plate – wayyyy before Instagram, make it special. If it ain’t nothing but a tuna sandwich and some sweet tea, you can elevate it! I think that’s why I’m so extra… LOL And, pray without ceasing. My Mama is a woman of strong faith. And that’s what I did. I prayed everyday, all day. I knew God was a healing God and He is still in the blessing business. So I asked God to help me get through this so I could help my sister. I didn’t want to lose my best friend, but I knew it was possible. So we all buckled down and rallied around my sister. We met the Doctors and learned as much as we could about the diagnosis and what to expect. We took turns going to chemotherapy and just being there for Nickey.
She had weeks of chemotherapy and a mastectomy. Her hair is growing back and she said to me last week, she is starting to feel like herself. She’s doing good y’all!!! We know the road ahead is still uncertain but we will keep praying. We were already close, but this experience has strengthened our sisterly bond even more. Sisterly bonds can not be broken by distance, time or even cancer.
Y’all are my sisters too, do self-exams, get your mammograms and listen to your body! This month, call, write, or text a reminder to a sister friend to do these things. You can find a ton of resources here. Thanking God for my sister Nickey, today and everyday!
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